When Everything Does NOT Happen For  A Reason.

🟣 “Everything happens for a reason.” Six and a half years ago, you would have heard me swinging this statement around out loud, with full commitment to it.

🟣 And then my late partner Nathan died.

🟣 This statement then became not only irrelevant in my belief set, but when I heard others swinging the same tune, I felt absolutely infuriated and would quickly cut them down with the “zero filter” that grief brought me, and share abruptly what I had tragically realised. For me, as a young widow and a mum, Nathan not being gifted a long life was in no way fair or comprehensible.

🟣 When everything does not happen for a reason, the realization that we do not have full control over life and death decisions is slapped to the face, and of course, this is not a comfortable one. That in itself can be pretty damn scary.

🟣 So, what we have to work with that IS in our control is the grief language (the words) that we select to use when supporting someone who is grieving.

🟣 It is important to be aware of dismissive statements like above, and instead bring in statements simply of grief acknowledgment, of kindness, and of compassion. The comfort and hope that you will bring to someone experiencing grief by using compassionate statements may not only be life-changing, but life-saving.

🟣 Find out how to become fluent in grief language and help someone in your life by booking your ticket to The Grief Language Project® Seminars happening in Perth on 16 March 2025 at the following link:  https://griefconnect.com.au/events/